32 p., Houghton Mifflin/Walter Lorraine, 2003.
Evie and Margie are best friends who dream together of being actors someday. Then they both decide to try out for the part of Cinderella in the class play. Margie is clearly the best at crying at will, and the tricks she teaches Evie to do this are too disturbing to Evie, and don't work for her anyway. Margie gets the part, and Evie is chosen as Margie's understudy. Evie is painfully disappointed, and when she gets home, she really cries. She realizes she's also jealous of Margie, and that upsets her. When Margie is sick on the day of the play, Evie plays the role of Cinderella, and has no difficulty crying at the appropriate time when she thinks about her disappointment in not getting the part, Margie's disappointment in missing out on her big day, and how awful it feels to be jealous. But a second performance is planned, and Margie gets to play Cinderella. Evie discloses her jealousy to Margie, who responds by saying that she had been jealous too. They're both relieved, and can be friends again. This story shows children how jealousy can disrupt a friendship, and how a strong friendship can survive it.
Ages 4-8
Main character's cultural background: non-human
Cultural context: non-human
Welcome to the online home of Healing Stories: Picture Books for the Big and Small Changes in a Child's Life. Here you'll find information about Healing Stories, along with unique resources to support you in using picture books to help children through the challenges they face, from the everyday to major trauma.
Have you ever wished that you could find just the right book for a child? Maybe a child in your life is anticipating a big change, such as having a new brother or sister, starting school for the first time, or moving to a new house. Maybe something difficult and painful has happened, such as a divorce, a serious illness, or a death. Or maybe you just know a child who is fearful at bedtime, or is a fussy eater, or has a bad day occasionally. It may have occurred to you that sharing a story could help the child in your life manage the situation that she or he is going through.
Why a story? A healing story is a comforting experience. As a child, it’s a comfort to know that other kids have gone through what you’re going through - whether it’s something as ordinary as starting school for the first time, or something as traumatic as a natural disaster. It’s a comfort to know that other children have had the feelings you’re having, and that there are ways to solve the problem or to get through the situation. Most of all, it’s a comfort to share this experience by reading with an adult who cares deeply about you. And when you’ve read this healing story with your parent or another caring adult enough, the book itself - and ultimately, the story (in the absence of a physical book) - becomes a comfort. But, as a parent or other concerned adult, how will you find this healing story to share with your child?
Healing Stories puts at your fingertips an annotated listing of more than 500 picture books that was prepared just for this purpose. Each story or nonfiction picture book has been carefully selected by a psychologist who works extensively with children. Each chapter includes summaries of picture books relevant to a specific concern that children may have, empowering you to select the books that best match the child and the situation you’re concerned about. Healing Stories also includes a helpful introduction that discusses ways to use books with children who are experiencing life changes or stress.
Below you'll find reviews of picture books that aren't included in Healing Stories, and can be valuable sources of healing for children.
Have you ever wished that you could find just the right book for a child? Maybe a child in your life is anticipating a big change, such as having a new brother or sister, starting school for the first time, or moving to a new house. Maybe something difficult and painful has happened, such as a divorce, a serious illness, or a death. Or maybe you just know a child who is fearful at bedtime, or is a fussy eater, or has a bad day occasionally. It may have occurred to you that sharing a story could help the child in your life manage the situation that she or he is going through.
Why a story? A healing story is a comforting experience. As a child, it’s a comfort to know that other kids have gone through what you’re going through - whether it’s something as ordinary as starting school for the first time, or something as traumatic as a natural disaster. It’s a comfort to know that other children have had the feelings you’re having, and that there are ways to solve the problem or to get through the situation. Most of all, it’s a comfort to share this experience by reading with an adult who cares deeply about you. And when you’ve read this healing story with your parent or another caring adult enough, the book itself - and ultimately, the story (in the absence of a physical book) - becomes a comfort. But, as a parent or other concerned adult, how will you find this healing story to share with your child?
Healing Stories puts at your fingertips an annotated listing of more than 500 picture books that was prepared just for this purpose. Each story or nonfiction picture book has been carefully selected by a psychologist who works extensively with children. Each chapter includes summaries of picture books relevant to a specific concern that children may have, empowering you to select the books that best match the child and the situation you’re concerned about. Healing Stories also includes a helpful introduction that discusses ways to use books with children who are experiencing life changes or stress.
Below you'll find reviews of picture books that aren't included in Healing Stories, and can be valuable sources of healing for children.
Monday, April 12, 2010
Monday, April 5, 2010
Shades of Black: A Celebration of Our Children by Sandra L. Pinkney
Illustrated by Myles C. Pinkney. 28 p., Scholastic, 2000.
This book celebrates the diversity of African American children with photographs showing many different skin tones, hair textures, and eye colors. The text expresses pride in all these variations. This book presents a positive message of acceptance of the unique aspects of one's appearance.
Ages 3-7
Main character's cultural background: none
Cultural context: African American
This book celebrates the diversity of African American children with photographs showing many different skin tones, hair textures, and eye colors. The text expresses pride in all these variations. This book presents a positive message of acceptance of the unique aspects of one's appearance.
Ages 3-7
Main character's cultural background: none
Cultural context: African American
Labels:
African American,
prejudice,
resilient sense of self
Monday, March 29, 2010
Badger's Parting Gifts by Susan Varley
25 p., Lothrop, Lee & Shepard, 1984.
Badger is old and unable to walk without a cane, and knows that it will be time to die soon. He isn't afraid of this; just concerned about his friends' experiences of losing him. After writing a brief goodbye note to them, Badger dies - expressed as an extraordinary dream of running down a tunnel. Badger's friends lovingly remember all the things he's taught them to do well. Each of these skills is a special gift. To one of the animals, it seems as if Badger can feel his gratitude for this gift. This story shows children that although sadness is part of death, so is keeping with us something we've gained from our closeness with the person who has died.
Ages 3-7
Main character's cultural background: non-human
Cultural context: non-human
Badger is old and unable to walk without a cane, and knows that it will be time to die soon. He isn't afraid of this; just concerned about his friends' experiences of losing him. After writing a brief goodbye note to them, Badger dies - expressed as an extraordinary dream of running down a tunnel. Badger's friends lovingly remember all the things he's taught them to do well. Each of these skills is a special gift. To one of the animals, it seems as if Badger can feel his gratitude for this gift. This story shows children that although sadness is part of death, so is keeping with us something we've gained from our closeness with the person who has died.
Ages 3-7
Main character's cultural background: non-human
Cultural context: non-human
Monday, March 22, 2010
Incredible Me! by Kathi Appelt
Illustrated by G. Brian Karas. 32 p., HarperCollins, 2003.
In this rhyming book, a girl joyfully celebrates her unique individuality. No one else has the same nose, the same smile, or even the same way of chewing, crying, or itching. Because of this, she sees herself as marvelous, spectacular, adorable, and incredible. This book will promote a positive self-image that's based on uniqueness, rather than competition, perfectionism, or a need to ignore one's limitations.
Ages 3-7
Main character's cultural background: European American
Cultural context: European American
In this rhyming book, a girl joyfully celebrates her unique individuality. No one else has the same nose, the same smile, or even the same way of chewing, crying, or itching. Because of this, she sees herself as marvelous, spectacular, adorable, and incredible. This book will promote a positive self-image that's based on uniqueness, rather than competition, perfectionism, or a need to ignore one's limitations.
Ages 3-7
Main character's cultural background: European American
Cultural context: European American
Labels:
European American,
resilient sense of self
Monday, March 15, 2010
Lost and Found: Remembering A Sister by Ellen Yeomans
Illustrated by Dee deRosa. 33 p., Centering Corporation, 2000.
A girl describes her and her family's emotional reactions when her older sister, Paige, dies of cancer. Her sense of emptiness is especially poignant. The girl introduces the idea that someone who has died is "lost" while being clear that Paige has, in fact, died. This allows her to use the metaphor of "finding" Paige to describe finding a new way to be connected to her after her death - she finds Paige in her heart. The illustrations often have a semi-abstract quality and are evocative of the feelings expressed in the text. Each also includes one emotionally loaded word, such as "lost," "sorry," "anger," "alone," "love." This story offers children empathy with their loss and hope for its resolution.
Ages 4-8
Main character's cultural background: not stated
Cultural context: not stated
A girl describes her and her family's emotional reactions when her older sister, Paige, dies of cancer. Her sense of emptiness is especially poignant. The girl introduces the idea that someone who has died is "lost" while being clear that Paige has, in fact, died. This allows her to use the metaphor of "finding" Paige to describe finding a new way to be connected to her after her death - she finds Paige in her heart. The illustrations often have a semi-abstract quality and are evocative of the feelings expressed in the text. Each also includes one emotionally loaded word, such as "lost," "sorry," "anger," "alone," "love." This story offers children empathy with their loss and hope for its resolution.
Ages 4-8
Main character's cultural background: not stated
Cultural context: not stated
Sunday, March 7, 2010
My Mom Travels a Lot by Caroline Feller Bauer
Illustrated by Nancy Winslow Parker. 38 p., Puffin, 1981.
A girl describes the advantages and disadvantages of her mom's frequent travel. The girl misses Mom's goodnight kiss, and Mom misses some important events. The house is sloppier, which is both an advantage and a disadvantage in the girl's eyes. And Dad just isn't as good at finding the girl's boots as Mom is. On the other hand, the girl gets to go to the airport and to eat at restaurants more often, and gets phone calls, postcards, and presents. And the biggest advantage is that Mom always comes home. This story offers acknowledgment of children's unhappiness about their parents' traveling, along with reassurance that their parents will always come home.
Ages 3-7
Main character's cultural background: European American
Cultural context: European American
A girl describes the advantages and disadvantages of her mom's frequent travel. The girl misses Mom's goodnight kiss, and Mom misses some important events. The house is sloppier, which is both an advantage and a disadvantage in the girl's eyes. And Dad just isn't as good at finding the girl's boots as Mom is. On the other hand, the girl gets to go to the airport and to eat at restaurants more often, and gets phone calls, postcards, and presents. And the biggest advantage is that Mom always comes home. This story offers acknowledgment of children's unhappiness about their parents' traveling, along with reassurance that their parents will always come home.
Ages 3-7
Main character's cultural background: European American
Cultural context: European American
Sunday, February 28, 2010
The Big Meow by Elizabeth Spires
Illustrated by Cynthia Jabar. 40 p., Candlewick, 2002.
The other cats won't play with Little Cat because they think his voice is too loud, even though his parents reassure him that it's wonderful. When a bulldog chases the cats, Little Cat tries to scare it away with a big meow. At first Little Cat is too scared to do this, but when the dog teases him, he gets angry, and lets out meows that blow the dog away to the next town. After this, the other cats accept Little Cat. This story will help children see how to detach others' "negative" labels from their attributes.
Ages 3-5
Main character's cultural background: non-human
Cultural context: non-human
The other cats won't play with Little Cat because they think his voice is too loud, even though his parents reassure him that it's wonderful. When a bulldog chases the cats, Little Cat tries to scare it away with a big meow. At first Little Cat is too scared to do this, but when the dog teases him, he gets angry, and lets out meows that blow the dog away to the next town. After this, the other cats accept Little Cat. This story will help children see how to detach others' "negative" labels from their attributes.
Ages 3-5
Main character's cultural background: non-human
Cultural context: non-human
Labels:
non-human,
resilient sense of self
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About the Author
- Jacqueline Golding, Ph.D.
- Jacqueline Golding, Ph.D. is a psychologist in private practice in Pleasanton, California who works with children, teens, and adults. A graduate of Yale University, Dr. Golding earned her Ph.D. in psychology at the University of California, Los Angeles and completed a post-doctoral fellowship at the Central Contra Costa County Child, Adolescent, and Family Mental Health Service in Concord, California. She holds an appointment as Professor Emeritus at the University of California, San Francisco and has published over 100 articles in scientific and professional journals on topics such as trauma, depression, and cultural issues in mental health. Dr. Golding is represented by the Levine Greenberg Literary Agency.
Selected authors and illustrators of books reviewed in Healing Stories or in this blog
- Marcie Aboff
- Larry Dane Brimner
- Pat Brisson
- Adjoa Burrowes
- Nancy White Carlstrom
- R. Gregory Christie
- John Coy
- Susi Gregg Fowler
- Miriam Katin
- Rukhsana Khan
- Ursula K. Le Guin
- Ann Morris
- Lynne Namka
- Donna Jo Napoli
- Holly Niner
- Marjorie Blain Parker
- Roni Schotter
- Marilyn Singer
- Cornelia Maude Spelman
- Ruth Vander Zee
- An Vrombaut
- Tamra Wight