The Hello, Goodbye Window by Norton Juster

Illustrated by Chris Raschka. 32 p., 2005. Relationships with grandparents can be a special source of joy and security for children. In this story by the author of the absolutely wonderful children's novel The Phantom Tollbooth, a little girl has special times at her Nanna and Poppy's house. Their house has a Hello, Goodbye Window where the girl greets her grandparents when she arrives, looks for the pizza delivery person, and even expects the queen of England and tyrannosaurus rex. When it's time to go home, she blows goodbye kisses through the window. The girl shares memories with Nanna and eats Poppy's delicious breakfasts, draws pictures, enjoys Poppy's jokes, and helps Nanna in the garden. There are limits at Nanna and Poppy's house (the girl can ride her bike, but not in the street; she can collect sticks, but not bring them into the house) but these don't seem to bother the girl a bit. When Mommy and Daddy pick the girl up, she's happy to go home, but sad to leave her grandparents, and acknowledges this combination of feelings in an informative, matter-of-fact way. The girl plans to have a special Hello, Goodbye Window in her own house when she grows up to be a Nanna. The colorful, exuberant illustrations add to this story's delight. The Hello, Goodbye Window offers a sense of warmth, security, and fun, empathy with transitions, and acknowledgement of complicated emotions. Ages 4-8

Neil's Castle by Alissa Imre Geis

32 p., Viking, 2004. Imagination is a special gift, and there's a unique satisfaction in bringing what we've imagined into the visible world. Neil dreams of a beautiful castle, and wakes up remembering all the details of it. He tries several ways to re-create the castle, problem-solving intelligently by considering what doesn't work about one solution and trying another. It doesn't work as a sand castle, a block castle, or a castle made from chairs and a blanket. He explains to his father that he wants to draw something "really big - bigger than me," and his father helps him line the walls of his room with huge pieces of paper. Neil draws his castle on the paper, stopping from time to time to consider its similarity to his dream castle. When it's just right, he paints it. He's excited to show his father, and when they pull up chairs, it's as if they're sitting inside the castle - just as Neil did in his dream, except this time, they're together and close. The illustrations are colorful, and at the same time have a contemplative quality that fits the mood of the book. This story shows children how they can use problem-solving and imagination together to create joy and connection. Ages 4-7

We Shake in a Quake by Hannah Gelman Givon

Illustrated by David Uttal.32 p., Tricycle, 2006. Earthquakes are scary, but they're more tolerable when you can talk about your feelings, understand what's happened, and feel prepared for the next one. As this story begins, a little boy wakes to an earthquake. He stays under his bed, frightened but trying to stay calm, until the shaking stops, and his parents and his friendly puppy come to him. Mom and Daddy compliment the child's behavior, and everyone in the family acknowledges how scary the earthquake was. Although there's minor damage in the house, the adults reassure the child that this isn't important, because people stayed safe. The adults make a safety plan so that everyone can be prepared for any future earthquakes. The children want to help implement it, and so they go shopping with their Mom for non-perishable food (including food for the dog), bottled water, wet wipes, and battery-operated flashlights and radio. Afterward, they store the supplies in the hall closet. When the child goes back to school, kids talk about their feelings about the earthquake, the class practices "drop and cover" drills, and their teacher explains the geology of earthquakes. The child also copes with distressed feelings by drawing angry pictures and creating his own, controllable, earthquakes with toy block buildings. The book includes a glossary of earthquake-related words and an afterword on earthquake preparedness. With its energetic rhymes and Dr. Seuss-inspired watercolor illustrations, this story addresses both the practical and the emotional aspects of earthquakes in an accessible, child-friendly way. Ages 4-8

Sofie and the City by Karima Grant

Illustrated by Janet Montecalvo.32 p., Boyds, 2006. When you move to a new country, you miss the beauty and friendliness of home. Such is the case for Sofie, who has moved to a large U.S. city (perhaps New York) with her parents from Senegal. In phone conversations with her grandmother, Mame, Sofie describes her experience of her new home as ugly and isolating. She tells Mame that she wants to return to Senegal. Her wise Mame tells her, "before you come back, you will just have to make it pretty." Beauty and friendship arrive together, in the form of a neighbor girl named Kenya who colors on the sidewalk with chalk. When Sofie joins Kenya in coloring, she draws her first home and her grandmother. This allows her to connect her old and new homes, and with a new friend, her new home doesn't seem so ugly any more. With its colorful illustrations, this story shows children important ways to feel at home in a new country. Ages 3-7

Rolling Along: The Story of Taylor and His Wheelchair by Jamee Riggio Heelan

Illustrated by Nicola Simmonds.30 p., Peachtree, 2000. Taylor and his twin brother, Tyler, have similar interests and are best friends. There is also an important difference between them: Taylor has cerebral palsy, and Tyler does not. Taylor explains that this condition causes his brain to tell his muscles to jump, instead of moving more smoothly. He has used a walker and braces on his legs for a long time, and has regular physical therapy to help him get stronger. But he still feels frustrated sometimes because he had to depend on other people; for example, his mom had to carry him to physical therapy visits. So when he starts to use a wheelchair, he's excited about the speed and independence that will be possible for him. He's even able to play basketball with Tyler! A classmate thinks that moving on foot is better than using a wheelchair, but when Taylor explains its advantages, his friend is happy for him. Learning to use a wheelchair takes work, both to operate the chair itself and to pay attention to buildings' accessibility. But for Taylor, it brings a sense of invincibility. This story is illustrated with engaging, attractive collages of drawings and photographs. Both children have disabilities and children who don't will better understand the experience of using a wheelchair, and will be happy for Taylor as his world expands. Ages 4-8

Winners Never Quit! by Mia Hamm

Illustrated by Carol Thompson.32 p., HarperCollins, 2004. Sometimes kids confuse their enjoyment of an activity with their enjoyment of accomplishment or compliments. Such is the case for the little girl in this story. Mia loves sports, especially soccer, which she plays well - most of the time. When she can't score a goal, she quits. "She'd rather quit than lose." The next day, the kids won't let her play with them. They explain that they don't allow "quitters" and that learning to lose is part of playing. But the day after that, Mia plays again. When the goalie stops her shot, she's about to fall apart again, but she realizes that "she didn't hate losing as much as she loved soccer." And she continues playing, knowing that playing is more important than winning or losing. the expressive, appealing watercolor illustrations draw children into the story. In a culture that many people feel overvalues credentials and loses sight of process, this story helps kids appreciate their subjective enjoyment and let go of the need to compete relentlessly in even a fun activity. Ages 4-7

Oh, Brother! by Nikki Grimes

Illustrated by Mike Benny.32 p., HarperCollins, 2008. The arrival of a step-sibling can bring with it complicated feelings. Xavier doesn't mind it when his Mami dates - he goes with them, the only child, or has one-on-one time with his soon-to-be stepfather. But when his stepdad brings his son, Chris, Xavier immediately begins to worry that Chris will steal Mami. As time goes on, Chris is so perfect - washing dishes, doing homework perfectly, even getting to bed before bedtime - that Xavier feels as if Chris is making him look bad. Eventually, he confronts Chris about this, and to his surprise, discovers that Chris feels that if he isn't perfect, his dad might leave him, just as his mother did. Hearing this, Xavier's reaction to Chris becomes more complex, both welcoming and resentful. But their conversation has opened the way for Chris to sympathize with Xavier, and soon the boys develop a real connection. Finally, Xavier feels that they're truly brothers. When Xavier's Mami and stepdad have a baby daughter at the end of the story, Xavier has learned that there's always room in his family for someone new. The gouache illustrations parallel Xavier's perspectives, moving from metaphorical to realistic as the story goes on. This story offers empathy with the fears and resentments kids may feel in relation to their step-siblings, along with hope that genuine connection with a step-sibling is possible Ages 5-10

I Like Where I Am by Jessica Harper

Illustrated by G. Brian Karas.32 p., Putnam, 2004. When you like your house, your neighborhood, and your school, the thought of moving somewhere else can be troubling. And when the movers come, the 6-year-old boy in this story just wants to stay where he is. He sees no reason to move to Little Rock. The boy's mama comforts him while the movers pack their truck. And the boy discovers that things are OK in his new home, he has a new friend, and he even has a new kitten - a privilege that was reserved for his little sister in the old house. Although he'll always love his old house, he likes his new home too. With its charming, gentle illustrations and catchy rhythms and rhymes, this story offers empathy and hope to children anticipating a move. Ages 4-7

Heron and Turtle by Valeri Gorbachev

40 p., Philomel, 2006. Friendship can grow from doing things together, being considerate, and adapting to each other. In this story, Heron and Turtle are neighbors. One day, Turtle invites Heron to go for a walk with him. But they don't walk well together, because Heron walks much faster than Turtle. Turtle solves the problem: instead of walking, they ride in his boat together. Heron also stops by Turtle's house for a spontaneous visit, apologizing for its unexpectedness; Turtle responds by making lunch that meets both friends' needs. And both friends enjoy watching the sun set over the lake, listening to the sounds of the evening. With its peaceful ink and watercolor illustrations, this story gently shows children important aspects of being a friend. Ages 3-6

A Good Day by Kevin Henkes

32 p., Greenwillow, 2007. When something bad happens, it seems as if it's a bad day, but that doesn't always turn out to be the case. In this story, a bird loses a feather, a dog gets her leash tangled, a baby fox can't find his mother, and a squirrel loses her nut. It looks as if things aren't going well. But then good things happen: the squirrel finds a new, bigger nut, the fox finds his mother, the dog frees herself and has fun, and the bird flies higher than ever before. And not only that, but the bird's misfortune turns out to be a gift to another, when a little girl finds his feather. With its very simple words and charming watercolor and ink illustrations, this story encourages children to maintain their hopefulness and resilience even when things seem to be going badly. Ages 2-5

Francis the Earthquake Dog by Judith Ross Enderle and Stephanie Gordon Tessler

Illustrated by Brooke Scudder.32 p., Chronicle, 1996. When there's a natural disaster, it's important for kids to know that someone will always take care of them. In this story, set in San Francisco in 1906, Edward, the son of a widowed chef at the St. Francis Hotel, adopts a lost dog. He keeps the dog in the hotel cellar while he helps his father at work, but the dog escapes and can't be found. Edward worries about the dog. That night, there is a major earthquake. Edward and his Papa run outside, and ultimately to Golden Gate Park, where they camp with others. Papa cooks for the camp, and with others, he and Edward help to repair the damage from the earthquake. Edward misses the dog. When Papa worries about their future, Edward reminds him that they still have each other. While helping to rebuild the city, Edward and Papa haul rubble awy from the St. Francis Hotel, where they discover, and dig out, the dog - who finally becomes part of their family. Afterwords for children explain the nature of earthquakes and give advice for earthquake safety. With its charming, vividly colored illustrations, this story reassures children that they can cope with even a major disaster. Ages 5-8

Elena's Serenade by Campbell Geeslin

Illustrated by Ana Juan.40 p., Atheneum/Schwartz, 2004. Anger at prejudice can provide the energy for creativity and success. Such is the case for Elena, who is furious when her father tells her that she can't be a glassblower like him because she is a girl. Elena disguises herself as a boy in her brother's old clothes and sets out to learn glassblowing. On her way, she discovers with delight that she can make music with her glassblowing pipe. She uses her music to help the animals she meets along the way, and they encourage and support her. When she reaches a glassblowing factory, then men don't think she's capable of anything, but she and they find that when she plays music through her pipe, she creates glass objects related to the song - for example, when she plays a song called "Estrellita," she blows a little glass star - and her glass stars become wildly popular. Eventually Elena returns home, gliding on the back of a large glass bird she has blown, and shows her father what she can do. Her father accepts her as a colleague. The warmly colored acrylic and crayon illustrations express the magic of this story, which encourages children not to accept "girls can't" as an answer and to find support for following their dreams. Ages 4-7

Ben, King of the River by David Gifaldi

Illustrated by Layne Johnson.p., Whitman, 2006. Embarrassment, worry, and annoyance may be part of having a sibling who has a developmental disability - but so are creativity, empathy, and connection. In this story, Chad and his family go on their first camping trip together. Chad's 5-year-old younger brother, Ben, has a developmental disability, and knowing that Ben dislikes new experiences and has allergies, Chad worries about how Ben will react. Ben feels happiest and safest watching videos, and is prone to saying "no" and whining, and has toileting difficulties and little frustration tolerance. But it turns out that Ben enjoys playing in the cold river, watching the campfire start, and eating roasted marshmallows, Although he's socially inappropriate (he wants to hug new acquaintances, even if they've been unkind), he finds ways to make connections (high-fiving the new acquaintances, giving Chad a roasted marshmallow). And although Ben annoys Chad (for example, embarrassing him by screaming when he doesn't want to get out of the river, reacting strongly to the presence of a bug), Chad is supportive toward him (for example, showing him how to make a cape out of his beach towel, explaining his behavior to other kids). The vivid watercolor illustrations clearly show the children's emotional experiences. An afterword by the author's 13-year-old nephew, whose life situation is similar to Chad's, describes some of the disadvantages and advantages of living with a developmentally disabled sibling, and an empathic author's note offers coping strategies. With optimism and understanding, this story validates and normalizes the experiences of children whose sibling is developmentally disabled. Ages 5-11

Half a World Away by Libby Gleeso

Illustrated by Freya Blackwood.40 p., Scholastic/Arthur A. Levine, 2007. When your best friend moves far away, an important part of your life is gone. Amy and Louie are best friends. Among all the fun things they do together, they like to see shapes in the clouds. They call each other, "Coo-ee, Lou-ee" and "Coo-ee, Am-ee," and their friend always comes. But Amy moves so far away that when it's daytime where one child lives, it's night for the other child. They think about each other every day. When Louie hopes that Amy will still answer his special call, his parents explain that it isn't possible. But he's resourceful, and he keeps asking. His grandma tells him that it isn't impossible - so he calls as loudly as he can. He notices seahorses and dragons in the clouds, and the gentle watercolor illustrations show those clouds drifting all the way to Amy's new home, where she wakes up from a dream that he was calling her. This sweet story shows children that even when they're far, far away from someone they love, their connection remains. Ages 4-7

No Matter What by Debi Gliori

28 p., Harcourt, 1999. Children sometimes feel unloved when they're grumpy, and need reassurance. Such is the case with Small, a little fox. Large notices Small's irritability and asks what's wrong, and Small explains, "I'm grim and grumpy ... and I don't think you love me at all." Large explains that s/he always loves Small, and Small asks some charmingly rhymed questions to confirm this; for example, "But if I turned into a squishy bug,/would you still love me and give me a hug?" Large explains that love can be mended if that's needed, and is always with us, whether we're close together or far apart. The change in Small's mood, from cranky to calm, is clear in the watercolor and ink illustrations. With Small, children will feel soothed and secure. Ages 2-5

That's What Friends are For by Valeri Gorbachev

32 p., Philomel, 2005. Being a good friend means caring about your friend, being willing to help, and maybe most of all, being empathic. In this sweet, funny story, Goat wakes up one morning, excited to be having dinner at his friend Pig's house that night. But he sees that Pig is in tears. He imagines all sorts of terrible things that might have happened, and thinks about how he'll help Pig in each of the situations he's imagined. For example, if Pig has fallen and broken his leg, he'll play chess with him every day to help him forget how much pain he's in. Finally, Goat can't stand worrying any longer, and he goes to Pig's house, equipped to help with all of the disasters on his mind. Pig is still in tears - and asks Goat to help him chop onions! Goat happily agrees, and is soon crying right along with Pig. With its lively ink and watercolor illustrations, this story not only conveys a wonderfully warm perspective on friendship, but also delivers an important message about worrying. Ages 3-6

Tadpoles by Betsy James

32 p., Dutton, 1999. Molly resents her baby brother, Davey, because Ma carries him to and she has to walk. One day, Molly discovers frog eggs at the pond. With Ma's encouragement, she brings them home to watch them grow, promising to return them to the pond when they become frogs. Ma explains that Molly and Davey began as dots, much like the ones inside the frogs' eggs' jelly. Molly watches the eggs grow into tadpoles, and then into frogs. She helps Davey watch the eggs develop, and he grows, too. Molly is sad when it's time to let the frogs go. At the same moment, Davey learns to walk - and walks to Molly. Now that Davey can walk, Ma lets the children take turns being carried. An afterword tells how to raise frog eggs. Children will see that some of the ways that babies monopolize their parents are temporary, and that helping a baby grow can lead to a special relationship with the baby. Ages 4-8

Otto Learns About his Medicine: A Story About Medication for Children (3rd edition) by Matthew Galvin, M.D.

Illustrated by Sandra Ferraro.32 p., Magination, 2007. When children have unusual difficulty paying attention in class, doing homework, thinking before they act, and sitting still, and those difficulties get in the way of their learning, they may have Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Such is the case for Otto, a young car. His teacher meets with his parents and refers them to a "special mechanic" (psychologist). Dr. Wheeler evaluates Otto and validates that his "motor does go too fast." She works with him to improve his attention and his relationships with other little cars, and works with his parents to help him at home.She also refers him to an additional "mechanic" (psychiatrist or behavioral pediatrician), Dr. Beemer, who prescribes medication for him. Dr. Beemer explains that the medicine won't make him sit still and follow the rules, but it will let him make the choices to do these things. He discusses side effects and their management. As the story ends, Otto is happy that he has caring parents and "mechanics" to help him. Although the car metaphor feels a little forced to me, it may appeal to many young children. Likewise, although the text strikes me as a bit long for children who have difficulty slowing down, it explains much about treatment in ways that children can understand. Children who have ADHD will realize that others have similar difficulties and that there are ways to cope. Ages 4-9

Sachiko Means Happiness by Kimiko Sakai

Illustrated by Tomie Arai. 32 p., Children's Book Press, 1990. When someone is ill, sometimes our empathy is what's needed most. Sachiko describes how her once-loving grandmother has changed and no longer seems to notice her. She feels angry and exhausted in her attempts to talk with Grandmother. She describes feeling overwhelmed in the face of Grandmother's tears, and then understanding empathically how frightened and alone Grandmother must feel. As she finds a way to enter into Grandmother's experience, she feels a sense of peace in the world. A postscript explains that the author had an experience similar to Sachiko's as a child. Children will understand how their empathy can be helpful even when it seems hopeless. Ages 6-9

Roasted Peanuts by Tim Egan

32 p., Houghton, 2006. Sometimes you have to change your plans to become the best you can be, and that might mean changing your ideas about how to be friends. Sam (a horse) and Jackson (a cat) are best friends who love baseball. Sam is a talented player, and although Jackson can throw, he can't pitch, and he has no other baseball skills at all. Not surprisingly, when they're old enough to play for a team, Sam is selected and Jackson isn't. They're both sad, Jackson because he didn't make the team, and Sam because playing isn't fun without his best friend. In fact, Sam is so sad that his playing suffers. He encourages Jackson to become a peanut vendor, saying he'd be good at it because he throws well, but at first, Jackson is too discouraged to try. When Jackson finally does become a peanut vendor, his presence at the games cheers Sam, who begins to play well again, and Jackson discovers that people truly appreciate and enjoy his peanut-tossing skills. Each one becomes famous for what he does best. In one exciting game, Jackson even helps Sam's team win, if inadvertently. In the end, Jackson's career is longer-lasting than Sam's. With its expressive illustrations, this story shows children that when each of us does what we do best, even if that means being different from our friends, we can stay connected to both ourselves and our good friends. Ages 5-8

Losing Uncle Tim by MaryKate Jordan

Illustrated by Judith Friedman. 32 p., Whitman, 1989. Daniel recalls the fun he'd had with his Uncle Tim. When Uncle Tim begins to get very tired, Daniel's mom explains that he has AIDS. Daniel is sad, angry, confused, and afraid he will catch AIDS from his uncle; his father reassures him that this won't happen. Daniel talks to Uncle Tim when Tim is in a coma, and Tim dies soon afterward. Daniel attends the funeral, which is conducted by a minister. Daniel begins to resolve his grief in part by seeing himself as being like Uncle Tim. This story encourages acceptance of all the feelings children may have when someone dies; gives information about AIDS, and helps children understand some ways to keep someone they love with them after the person dies. Ages 4-8

Gigi and Lulu's Gigantic Fight by Pamela Duncan Edwards

Illustrated by Henry Cole. 40 p., HarperCollins/Tegen, 2004. Sometimes it takes an argument to learn that best friends don't have to be the same in every way. Gigi (a pig) and Lulu (a mouse) are best friends, and always wear the same thing. The adults around them comment on how much they're the same, "two peas in a pod." But then, one day, Lulu accuses Gigi of knocking over her block building. Gigi accuses Lulu of putting the blocks in her way. They each declare that they'll never speak to each other again. Although the adults try to get them to make up, they refuse. Soon it's twin day at school, and neither child wants to choose someone with whom they'll dress alike and bring the same lunch. Their teacher suggests that they just wear and bring what they like best. When they get to school, each discovers that she's had misconceptions about what the other's favorites are, and that they really don't share as many tastes as they'd thought. But they do have their favorite green sneakers in common, along with a shared routine of wearing them on Wednesdays. They decide that even though they really aren't "two little peas in a pod," they can each be themselves, and can be friends again. Children will learn that it's not only possible, but maybe necessary, to be unique individuals while being friends. Ages 4-7

Old Pig by Margaret Wild

Illustrated by Ron Brooks. 33 p., Dial, 1996. Old Pig and Granddaughter do the chores together every day, until one day Old Pig doesn't get up for breakfast. Knowing that she is going to die soon, she puts her affairs in order and takes one last long, slow walk around the town with Granddaughter, enjoying the sights, sounds, smells, and tastes. She allows Granddaughter to care for her tenderly one last time. This story offers a sweet image of a loving goodbye. Ages 3-7

Hot Day on Abbott Avenue by Karen English

Illustrated by Javaka Steptoe. 32 p., Clarion, 2004. It can be hard to stay best friends when you're angry, and, as a neighbor points out, "Hot days sure can make tempers short.". On the hot, hot day in this story, Renée is furious at Kishi because Kishi bought the last blue ice pop, Renée's favorite, from the ice cream man. Kishi retorts that blue ice pops are her favorite, too. Each one plays alone a little, but mostly they do nothing. Adults try to get them both to help with things, but they see right through this, and refuse. But neither girl can resist the chants that go with double-Dutch jump rope, and both join in with a group of their friends. Gradually, the fun of jumping rope replaces their anger. And when the ice cream man comes again, all the girls except Renée get blue ice pops - and there are no more left. This time, Kishi shares with Renée, and soon the two feel good about being best friends again. This story is illustrated with stunning cut paper and found-object collages that are full of depth, texture, and energy. With Kishi and Renée, children will understand that even when you're angry, it's possible to soothe yourself, repair relationships, and be friends again. Ages 5-8

I'll Protect You From the Jungle Beasts by Martha Alexander

32 p., Dial, 1973. A toddler in one-piece pajamas assures his teddy bear that he'll protect Teddy from lions, tigers, and hyenas. As the child begins to feel that he's lost in the woods, the bear grows bigger and comforts the frightened child (who attributes his shaking and perspiration to fever), finally carrying him home to bed. The next morning, Teddy is back to his normal size. This story shows children at least two ways to cope with fear: to talk to themselves in a comforting way (as the boy talks to the teddy bear) and to use a comforting object (in this case, the bear). Ages 3-5

Kindergarten Rocks! by Katie Davis

32 p., Harcourt, 2005.

Starting kindergarten can be scary, even if you know all about it because your older sister was once in kindergarten. Such is the case for Dex, who verbalizes that kindergarten is going to be "a piece of cake," but his facial expressions tell us otherwise. And also, his toy dog, Rufus, is just a little scared. Dex's sister, Jes, gives him lots of reassurance, but he still has lots of worries, and she has to drag him to his classroom. There, he acknowledges that there are "some kind of good surprises abotu kindergarten" - for example, his friend from preschool is in his class. The children hear stories, make art, cook, write, look at books, build with blocks, play dress-up, go to the library, and eat lunch at the cafeteria. Dex learns that there are custodians to help you when you accidentally spill your milk. But at the end of the day, Dex can't find Rufus. He's panicked. His teacher enlists Jes to help him look, and they retrace his steps, but they can't find him. Finally, Dex finds Rufus in the classroom. With happy relief, he decides not to bring Rufus to school any more. As the story ends, Dex looks forward to learning in kindergarten - he's already learned that "kindergarten rocks!" The colorful, almost childlike illustrations clearly express Dex's emotions. Children will learn that kindergarten rocks - and that even though you might lose your equanimity when you face a big change like starting kindergarten, you'll find it quickly.

Ages 4-8

Grandpa Loves by Rebecca Kai Dotlich

Illustrated by Kathryn Brown. 26 p., HarperCollins, 2005. Children and grandparents can have a unique bond. In this story, a little pig's grandpa loves to do lots of fun things through all the seasons, always with the little one. Illustrated with gentle watercolors, this story clearly conveys the feeling that Grandpa is a loving, special friend and companion to the little one, and the sense that the little pig feels lovable as a result. Children who have a special grandpa will join with the little pig in the feelings of security and happiness in this relationship. Ages 4-6

Healing Stories in Be Inkandescent ezine

I'm delighted to announce that questions and answers about Healing Stories are featured in today's parenting column of Be Inkandescent, an ezine for entrepreneurs. The column, which you can access here, includes discussion of the benefits of stories, tips for using stories with children who are experiencing change or stress, and other questions that parents might have. I hope you enjoy reading it!

Bravery Soup by Maryann Cocca-Leffler

32 p., Whitman, 2002. When you're determined, you can discover your courage. Carlin, a little raccoon, is afraid of everything. His friend tells him he need some bravery, which he can get from Big Bear, "the bravest animal in all the land." Big Bear is making Bravery Soup, but he needs Carlin to get an important ingredient for him. To do this, Carlin has to travel alone through the a forest to a cave on a mountain, where a monster lives, and bring back a box. He's frightened, but Big Bear tells him, "You are braver than you think." His friends outfit him for the journey with things that are meant to help him, but just increase his awareness of the dangers he'll face. They worry about him, and eventually follow him into the forest. What they see convinces them that Carlin has come to danger. But it turns out that he hasn't - and in fact, the forest is a lot less dangerous than they'd led him to believe. He finds the cave, where the monster turns out to be human, and to be afraid of Carlin. Carlin realizes this possibility, and asks for the box, which he receives. He runs down the mountain, finding his friends along the way, and back to Big Bear. It turns out that the box is empty. Big Bear explains that Carlin's journey was worthwhile because he has faced his fears. "It is not what is inside the BOX that makes bravery. it is what is inside of YOU!" Carlin happily claims his bravery. This wonderful story is illustrated with charming, expressive acrylic paintings. With Carlin, children will learn that they have courage, even when it's unacknowledged. Ages 3-8

We Wanted You by Liz Rosenberg

Illustrated by Peter Catalanotto. 27 p., Roaring Brook Press, 2002. In the voice of adoptive mother and father, this book tells a boy how much he has always been wanted, even before he was born. The illustrations show the boy as a high school graduate and then younger and younger in each picture, until the parents finally describe his adoption in early infancy. The parents explain that although they weren't his first parents, they waited for him and cared for him, and the boy and the parents belong to each other. The illustrations fast-forward to the boy's departure for college as a young man, his parents again saying how much they've always wanted him, up to and including this moment. This story offers children the sense of having a whole lifetime together with adoptive parents. Ages 3-7

Shrinking Violet by Cari Best

Illustrated by Giselle Potter. 40 p., Farrar/Melanie Kroupa, 2001. Sometimes when you can't bear to be seen, there are ways to use your strengths to feel good about yourself. Violet is smart, talented, and creative. Because she's highly sensitive, she's not only painfully anxious about being seen, but also a keen observer and a brilliant imitator. But one of her classmates, Irwin, is particularly mean to her, and this embarrasses her, often making her wish that she could disappear. Violet's teacher comes up with a wise plan to give her a part in the school play about the solar system: she assigns her the part of Lady Space, who speaks from offstage. Violet feels capable of performing this role and is relieved that she doesn't feel like shrinking away. At the performance, Irwin (playing Mars), seems to forget what to do, and moves around the stage aimlessly. When it's time for him to speak, he's nowhere to be found. Spontaneously, Violet not only imitates his voice, but also ad-libs hilarious lines for him. Now it's Irwin's turn to be embarrassed. As Lady Space, Violet becomes the star of the show. And when Irwin resumes insulting her afterward, she finds that she doesn't feel embarrassed - instead, she feels self-confident. She knows that she's fine just the way she is. This engaging, intelligent, whimsically-illustrated story shows children that even when they feel chronically vulnerable to embarrassment, they can acknowledge, develop, and use their strengths, and ultimately, feel confident instead of ashamed. Ages 5-8

Hurricane by David Wiesner

32 p., Clarion, 1990. When a tree falls during a hurricane, it becomes the scene of diverse, exciting adventures for two young brothers. George is in his early school years, and David is preschool age. When the tree is cut up and hauled away, they half-hope that another tree will fall during the next storm. The watercolor illustrations use light and shadow effectively to show the moods of the storm, its aftermath, and the imaginary worlds of the tree. This story shows children a way to use imagination to create hope out of a scary situation. Ages 3-8

Little Mamá Forgets by Robin Cruise

Illustrated by Stacey Dressen-McQueen.40 p., Farrar/Kroupa, 2006. When someone has dementia and forgets many things, we can still appreciate the things she remembers. Although Lucy's grandmother sometimes forgets to wake up in the morning, Lucy reminds her by tickling her awake, and Little Mamá remembers to tickle her back. Although Little Mamá forgets how to tie her shoes, Lucy reminds her - and Little Mamá remembers how to button her dancing shoes and remembers dancing with Papi, she and Lucy enjoy dancing together. Little Mamá may forget to wait for a green light to cross the street, but she remembers how to skip, and the whole family enjoys skipping together. In spite of her forgetting, Little Mamá recreates the warmth and family closeness that she remembers from Mexico. With its lively illustrations, this story shows children that even when someone forgets important things, closeness and joy are still possible. Ages 4-8

The Biggest, Meanest, Ugliest Dog in The Whole Wide World by Rebecca C. Jones

Illustrated by Wendy Watson. 32 p., Macmillan, 1982.

Jonathan lives next door to Pirate, a very scary dog. Although he does all he can to avoid Pirate, one day he is surprised and terrified to find himself alone with him. He throws a ball at Pirate, who responds by playing with him. Once Jonathan gets to know Pirate, Pirate looks and sounds a lot less scary. This story not only shows children that something that seems scary is not so frightening when seen from a different perspective, but also, more metaphorically, shows kids that if they make friends with their fears, they'll be less scared.

Ages 3-7

Where's Jamela? by Niki Daly

36 p., Farrar, 2004.

Sometimes moving to a new house means leaving a home that you love. Jamela doesn't want to move to the new house that Mama has found, even though her Gogo (grandmother) is going to live there with them. She loves the old house, the street sounds, the smells of the neighborhood, and the stars she can see from her bedroom window. But Jamela works hard packing her things, and she gets so tired that she goes to sleep - in her packing box. When Mama's friends pack the family's things into their pickup truck, no one can find Jamela. They look everywhere, and finally call the police, before they discover Jamela, who has woken up, in her box. Everyone is happy to see her, and they celebrate with music and dancing, which Jamela correctly understands as "a going-away song." She begins to understand that even Mama is sad to leave their old home. But the new home is as nice as Mama had said it would be, and Jamela realizes that she hasn't lost the sky that she used to see from her old bedroom window. With its lively illustrations, this story will be a comfort to children who are sad to leave an old home for a new one.

Ages 5-8

Dog Blue by Polly Dunbar

40 p., Candlewick, 2004.

Sometimes our ideas about what's perfect make it difficult to see what really is perfect. In this story, Bertie loves the color blue, and so he wants a blue dog more than anything. When he yaps while pretending to be the blue dog he wishes for, he's surprised when someone yaps back - a little white dog with black spots, "all alone and looking for an owner." Bertie immediately thinks the dog is wonderful, and adopts it. But the dog isn't blue. He finally solves this problem by giving the dog something blue: the name Blue. They become best friends, and love each other very much. With its simple, expressive illustrations, this story shows children the possibilities of using their imagination to discover what they want, and recognizing when they've discovered this in reality, even if it doesn't appear so at first.

Ages 3-5

What Did You Do Today? The First Day of School by Toby Forward

Illustrated by Carol Thompson.32 p., Clarion, 2004.

Even when children and parents are apart during the day, they're connected not only by thinking about each other, but by the similar elements in their days. In this story, it's a little boy's first day of preschool. The day starts with packing lunches - one for him, one for his mother. At school, the little boy hugs his mother and watches her as she disappears, and soon he's so busy that he forgets about missing her. On facing pages, we see the child's and the mother's similar experiences: greeting classmates (or colleagues), eating snacks and lunch, writing, even feeling sleepy. We see the mother thinking about the little boy on most of the pages, and the little boy thinking about his mother at lunchtime and when it's time to get ready to go home. They reunite joyfully, ready to hear about each other's day. With its warm, happy watercolor illustrations, this story offers reassurance and connection.

Ages 2-5

Oh No, Gotta Go! by Susan Middleton Elya

Illustrated by G. Brian Karas.32 p., Putnam, 2003.

Part of potty learning is learning to tell your caregivers when you need to use the bathroom. In this energetically rhyming story, a little girl is riding in the car with her parents when she needs to go. Her father looks for a bathroom, but it's Sunday, and most businesses are closed. He reassures her as she expresses more and more urgency. Finally, Papa sees a construction worker, who directs him to a restaurant. There's a long line for the rest room, but the girl's mother politely asks the other women to let the little girl go ahead of them because it's so urgent. They agree sympathetically, and the girl finds relief at last. The family eats a meal at the restaurant, and no sooner are they off again, than the little girl needs a bathroom. The charming illustrations clearly express the girl's urgency. Children will identify with the girl's experiences, and will learn that sometimes you have to wait when you need to go to the bathroom. English-speaking children will learn some Spanish words, too, since the text includes many Spanish words, with a glossary.

Ages 2-4

The Princess Knight by Cornelia Funke

Translated by Anthea Bell. Illustrated by Kerstin Meyer. 32 p., Scholastic/Chicken House, 2001.

Restrictive cultural ideas can't keep a princess down in this story. A widowed king decides to teach his daughter, Violetta, the same things he is teaching her three older brothers - riding, fighting, and arrogance. Violetta is small, and her brothers tease her as she struggles to keep up with them. But she's very determined, and she goes out at night and quietly practices her skills. As a result, when she jousts with her brothers, she's so quick that they can't hit her with their swords. When Violetta is turning 16, the king announces a jousting tournament, with her hand in marriage going to the winner. Deeply offended, Violetta enters the tournament herself as Sir No-Name, and to her father's amazement, she wins. She decides to choose her own prize: "no one will ever win Princess Violetta's hand in marriage without first defeating Sir No-Name." No one ever challenges her again.The illustrations are very expressive of both Violetta's smallness and her toughness. The strength of Violetta's self-determination will be an inspiration to girls.

Ages 5-8

Ruby in Her Own Time by Jonathan Emmett

Illustrated by Rebecca Harry.32 p., Scholastic, 2004.

Each child develops and her or his own rate. In this story, Mother Duck and Father Duck have five eggs. Four hatch into ducklings; the fifth takes a little longer. Thus begins the story's refrain: Father Duck asks, "Will it/she EVER..." and Mother Duck replies, "It/she will. In its/her own time." The fifth duckling, Ruby, takes longer than her siblings to eat and to swim. But when her siblings fly, Ruby flies too - farther and longer than her siblings. This time, Mother Duck wonders whether she will ever come back, and Father Duck reassures her that Ruby will, "in her own time." And she does, having become a mother duck herself. With its gentle, but richly colored, illustrations, this story offers reassurance that all paths of development can lead to happy outcomes.

Ages 3-6

I Like Myself by Karen Beaumont

Illustrated by David Catrow. 32 p., Harcourt, 2004.

Liking ourselves means liking all that we are. In this charmingly rhymed story, full of delightful silliness, a little girl expresses liking for herself - her body, her moods, her thoughts, and even her potential to look very very strnge. She knows that no matter what she looks like, she's the same inside, and "nothing in this world, you know,/ can change what's deep inside." She doesn't mind if other people think she's strange, in part because she realizes that what someone else sees of her is at most, only part of who she really is. With colorful illustrations whose silliness matches the text and that are sometimes reminiscent of Dr. Seuss, this story vigorously supports kids' self-acceptance.

Ages 3-7

Brave Bear by Kathy Mallat

24 p., Walker and Company, 1999.

In this almost wordless book, a little bear sees a bird that has fallen from its nest, and offers to help. The bear is doubtful and scared climbing up the bird's tree, but keeps on going. The bear eventually puts the bird back in the nest, and feels confident. This story encourages children to keep trying even when they think they can't do something, and shows them that courage means persisting even when they're afraid.

Ages 1-3

The Healing Tree by Kathleen Maresh Hemery

Illustrated by Kyra Teis.25 p., Centering Corporation, 2001.

Samantha asks her Baba (grandma) Marta why the tree has a scar. Baba tells her how the tree was special to her because it had an important role in some of her best times with her mother. When Baba's mother died, when Baba was still a little girl, lightning struck the tree, causing it to lose the branch from which Baba's swing hung. The tree became like Baba and her family, scarred by a sudden loss and changed forever, but eventually healing. This story offers children empathy with the pain of losing someone close, and hope that there is healing after grief.

Ages 6-10

All Kinds of Children by Norma Simon

Illustrated by Diane Paterson. 32 p., Whitman, 1999.

Children all over the world have a lot in common: they all need food, clothes, sleep, and people to love them; they all live in houses; they all like to play, to hold something special, like a blanket, and to hear or read stories. And all children grow up. At the same time, there are differences among children; for example, although all children sleep, they may have different kinds of beds and dream different kinds of dreams. This story helps children recognizes their commonalities across cultures, while acknowledging differences.

Ages 2-5

How Humans Make Friends by Loreen Leedy

32 p., Holiday House, 1996.

Zork, an extraterrestrial, gives extraterrestrial audience a slide presentation about the ways that he or she has observed that humans make friends. Zork gives examples of how and where friends meet and what they might do together and talk about. Zork explains the ways that humans do (for example, by taking turns and listening) and don't (for example, acting bossy or selfish) get along with each other, and identifies some of the feelings people have in each case. Zork explains how humans work out conflicts, admit their mistakes, and apologize to and forgive one another. Zork's lecture ends with information about types of friends (for example, close or casual friends) and ways to keep in touch (for example, phone, letters, and email). Zork tells readers that friends get along by keeping secrets and don't get along when they "blab" them; children may need to be reminded that they should tell a secret if it makes them uncomfortable or could cause someone to get hurt. Otherwise, this book is full of practical, accessible information about friendship and social skills.

Ages 3-8

Little Raccoon's Big Question by Miriam Schlein

Illustrated by Ian Schoenherr.32 p., Greenwillow, 2004.

A little raccoon asks his mother when she loves him most. He guesses that she might love him most at times when he's adorable, or compliant, or plays well with other raccoon children, or shows his skills. Mother Raccoon explains that she loves him most now, because it's always now. This book is especially nice as a bedtime story, because it not only expresses a soothing message of unconditional love, but also ends with the little raccoon's bedtime.

Ages 3-7

Abuelita's Paradise by Carmen Santiago Nodar

Illustrated by Diane Paterson.32 p., Whitman, 1992.

As this story begins, Marita's father gives her her grandmother's rocking chair, saying that Abuelita wanted her to have it. Marita sits in the chair and remembers sitting in Abuelita's lap in the chair as she told her stories of her childhood on a sugar cane farm in Puerto Rico. Abuelita tells Marita that Puerto Rico is paradise. Toward the end of the book, the author tells us that Abuelita has died. Marita's mother sits with her in the rocking chair and both feel embraced by Abuelita's presence, shown in the illustrations as a shadowy image. Marita daydreams about traveling to Puerto Rico someday, feeling that she truly has her Abuelita with her. Children will understand that when someone close dies, their stories are still a part of you.

Ages 3-8

Henry's Show and Tell by Nancy Carlson

32 p., Viking, 2004.

Shyness can make some parts of life really difficult. Little mouse Henry loves everything about kindergarten except for Show and Tell. He feels too scared and shaky to speak in front of his class. His sympathetic teacher suggests that he bring something that he enjoys talking about and practice his presentation in front of a mirror. Henry takes her advice and brings his pet lizard, Wallace. But just as he's about to talk, Wallace escapes. By the time he catches Wallace, Henry forgets to be shy, and easily tells his class all about lizards. When it's time for Show and Tell again, Henry is silent. He explains that he has nothing to talk about because his pet spider has escaped. As his teacher calls recess, the story ends. With its bright, child-friendly illustrations, this empathic story shows children that they're not alone in their shyness, and that it's possible to overcome it even when - and possible because of - unexpected events.

Ages 4-7

Grandmama's Pride by Becky Birtha

Illustrated by Colin Bootman.32 p., Whitman, 2006.

How can a child make sense of pervasive, inexplicable prejudice? When 6-year-old Sarah Marie and her family visit her Grandmama in the South in 1956, adult relatives protect her from segregation. Instead of telling her she isn’t allowed to drink from a drinking fountain because she is African American, Grandmama simply advises against it, suggesting that it might not be clean, and promises her homemade lemonade instead. Grandmama refuses to ride segregated buses before the organized bus boycotts, but Sarah Marie doesn’t know that; she just knows that Grandmama never rides the bus. During her visit to the South, Sarah Marie’s aunt teaches her to read. Soon she can read the signs that reserve rest rooms for “White Women” and drinking fountains for “White [people] only.” When she asks Grandmama what these mean, Grandmama explains what segregation is, adding, “’you don’t want that city water anyway … It isn’t even cold.’” Now that she can read, Sarah Marie begins protecting her 5-year-old sister in the same ways her mother and grandmother have been protecting her. By the next summer’s visit, laws have changed, and these forms of segregation have ended in Grandmama’s town. When Grandmama explains this to Sarah Marie, her triumph is clear. The watercolor illustrations are especially evocative of summer light and long-ago memories. This story shows children that with the support of a loving family, it’s possible to maintain your own internal sense of who you are, even in situations of blatant, inexplicable prejudice.

Ages 5-10

Being Me by Julie Broski

Illustrated by Vincent Vigla. 32 p., Children's Press, 2006.

Disability is only one part of who we are. In this story, a little girl tells about the things she likes to do (for example, play dress-up, paint, play with friends) and her capabilities (for example, she can add and subtract, do cartwheels, and help with chores). Each of these is part of who she is - as is being deaf and signing. She acknowledges both differences and similarities with the reader, saying that she loves the reader for her/his unique self, and feels confident that the sentiment is reciprocated. With cheerful, rather edgy illustrations, this story communicates acceptance of a range of human experience.

Ages 3-7

The Forever Dog by Bill Cochran

Illustrated by Dan Andreasen.32 p., HarperCollins, 2007.

Mike loves his dog, Corky, dearly. Not only do they do everything together, but also, Mike can tell Corky anything. They plan to be best friends forever. But one day, Corky is at the vet when Mike comes home from school, and his mom explains that Corky is very sick. By the next morning, Corky has died. Mike and his parents bury Corky, and Mike is unbearably sad. But he's also angry with Corky for breaking his promise to be best friends forever. After a week of anger, he tells his mom about this. She reminds him of all the special times that he and Corky had together. When Mike says he'll never forget these times, Mom explains that this means that Corky had, in fact, kept his promise - he would always be with Mike in his heart and in his thoughts. She explains Mike's pain as Corky "trying to get comfortable in his new home ... in your heart.'" When Mike is able to let Corky into his heart again, he feels warm inside. With softly colored, expressive illustrations, this story empathically acknowledges children's grief shows them a way through it.

Ages 4-8

Oh, Baby! by Sara Bonnett Stein

Illustrated by Holly Anne Shelowitz. 32 p., Walker and Co., 1993.

Most of this book is about what babies can do. They make faces, imitate older people, grab older people's fingers, eat, poop, and get bathed. They cry when they need something. Babies' kissable cheeks, special smell, and smiles are irresistible. As they get older, babies pick up things, play with them, and put them in their mouths. Eventually, they learn to crawl and walk. This book would be a good choice for a child who hasn't had a lot of experience with babies, since knowing what to expect can help ease the transition to having a baby in the house. It doesn't directly address feelings about having a new brother or sister.

Ages 2-6

Henry's Amazing Imagination by Nancy Carlson

32 p., Viking, 2008.

Sometimes kids tell lies when they want to express what they’ve imagined. They may worry that the truth is boring. Little mouse Henry uses his imagination at show-and-tell time, telling his classmates strange and exciting tales. When they become skeptical, Henry realizes that he “didn’t mean to fib … it’s just that his imagination got mixed up with the truth.” Recognizing Henry’s imagination, his teacher suggests that he use it to write stories. Then, Henry writes stories and at show and tell, he tells about the boring events of his everyday life. That doesn’t work for him or his classmates. He comes up with the perfect solution: he reads his stories to his class during show and tell. The author’s illustrations are full of color, charm, and expressiveness. With Henry, children will learn to channel their imaginations in positive ways.

Ages 4-7

Jam Day by Barbara M. Joosse

Illustrated by Emily Arnold McCully. 28 p., Harper & Row, 1987.

Sometimes our assumptions about the kind of family we have can limit our perceptions. Ben lives in a quiet two-person household with his Mama, and wishes for a big, noisy family. He and Mama, along with Ben's aunt, uncle, and two cousins, visit Grandmam and Grandpap for an annual family tradition: Jam Day. On Jam Day, everyone in the family picks strawberries and helps make jam. In the midst of a delicious abundance of homemade jam and biscuits, Ben realizes that he is really part of exactly the kind of family he'd wished for. This story will help children to discover the otherwise invisible strengths of different kinds of families.

Ages 4-8